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Transformation by Truth: Day 27

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Day 27

Excerpts from Transformation by Truth: 30 Days to a Healthy Heart, Mind and Body by Noelle Dey © 2012

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Carefully prepared just for you by your friend, Noelle Dey

Blessing:

Great God in Heaven... Lord we stand in awe of You today. Thank You for continuing to pursue a people who constantly forget about You. Forgive us Father for treating You as something we could do with or without, because Lord it just isn't so. Today, I pray that You would make Your presence know in our lives. Open our ears to hear Your voice. Focus our eyes so that we might see Your face. Stir our hearts that we might feel Your love. Touch our bodies so that we might worship You. In Jesus name, amen.

Scripture Reference:

For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Matthew 7:2 NIV

Today’s Message:

A sure-fire way to know I’m lagging on grocery shopping is seeing Ryan’s tuna salad in a Tupperware on the second shelf of our fridge. That means that we are out of sandwich meat. So in his desperation, my honey gets a can of tuna from the pantry to make his lunch.

I can hear it already, “I wish I had a husband who didn’t complain if we were out of food. You should be so lucky that he comes up with his own solution!” Yeah, I get it. But hear me out. That tuna salad, which was the leftover from his lunch, will sit there in the same spot on the same shelf for weeks.

I have used every technique in the book to get him to change. I’ve been direct, “Ryan are you going to finish this tuna or should I throw it out?” His reply is always, “Leave it there. I’ll finish it.” Seriously, that will still be his reply come week three.

I have quietly moved his container right in front of something I knew he’d eat or drink. But he’s like a mouse eating the peanut butter without triggering the trap. My last resort is always humor, “Ryyyaaaan! Your month-old tuna is asking for yooouu…” Nothing. In fact, I think it brings him pure joy to see me going out of my skull.

Now that I’m on a roll (Wouldn’t that be hysterical if I were really sitting on a roll? Sourdough please!) let me tell you about Ryan and our debit card. I’ve only asked him a million times to give me the receipts so I can enter them into our Quicken ledger. When my head twists in full circles, he’ll remember for the span of two transactions. That’s it. Two times.

After that, I have to go back to my passive-aggressive measures. I’ll be online reviewing our bank account and in my critical way I’ll say, “I see you ate at Philly’s Best Sandwiches and spent nine dollars last Wednesday.” Unfazed he says, “Yeah.” He drives me N-U-T-S.

You know what else drives me nuts? His lack of grace with me. What? Who said “double standards”? One thing I’m really good at is coffee house recipe makeovers. A typical small-sized mocha has at least 150 calories, and the ingredients are not what you want to put into your body. My mocha is less than 25 calories, it doesn’t contain any artificial sweeteners and it has antioxidants.

While all of my friends rave about my healthy drinks, do you know what Ryan says about it? As he’s doing a white glove inspection (minus the white glove and it really isn’t an inspection) where I measured out the cocoa powder and cinnamon, he’ll rhetorically ask, “What happened? Did the dust fairy visit our countertops? I just cleaned them. Half of the cleanup is not making the mess in the first place.”

Side note: I just read this out loud to Ryan. He said that I didn’t come close to telling the whole story, “What about your lemons that you cut every morning on the counter? You don’t use a plate or a cutting board. Your dust storm and drippings are everywhere! Are you planning to write about your disgusting socks that you ball up and throw in the laundry after running in wet grass at boot camp?”

Okay, so maybe he has asked me more than a handful of times to take the extra second to unroll them and make sure they’re right side out. But, do you know what I hear? Charlie Brown’s teacher, “Waaah waaaah waaaahh…”

The funny thing is, I used to swear up and down that I’d never grow up to have my Mom’s stubborn pride. In her opinion, you could do things her way… or… you could do things… her way. Am I turning into my Mom in some instances?

Well… I am growing in grace each day… but I fully admit that the shoe seems to fit. So, feel free to call me Cinderella-san.

APPLICATIONS

Heart:

For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Matthew 7:2-5

How can you not laugh when you visualize yourself with a long plank of wood coming from your eye socket… and there you are, squinting and trying desperately to “help” someone get an invisible speck of dust from their eye?

With this picture in my mind, I now ask God about the plank in my eye when I catch myself judging or condemning someone else’s behavior. More often than not, I find that my frustration and my critical judgment is overbearing because the character flaw that is bothering me actually has a strong root in me. It’s not that we aren’t supposed to judge altogether, but we are called to correct ourselves first.

When you consider the people who you interact with on a regular basis, do you find that they have behaviors that drive you N-U-T-S?

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Journal your own situations and instead of asking God to fix the nutty people, ask God to reveal the planks that need to be removed from your eyes.

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What is God teaching you about you?

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Is He calling you to lighten up?

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To have more humor?

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To make big changes?

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To learn the lesson of perspective?

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To have more grace and forgive?

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You might be in a place where you have asked God to reveal your planks, He has helped you remove them, and you now have to confront the speck of dust in someone else’s eye. Jesus confronted. He confronted the issues while loving the people.

Be ready to forgive (Ephesians 4:32) and speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).

Write out what God reveals and what you’re planning to do from here on, in response to His prompting.

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I know for me, the Lord is certainly working in my heart on many different levels. In the spiritual world, I must look hysterical with all those wood beams coming from my eyes. Do you think I could supplement my income by selling my stories including pictures of logs coming out of my eye sockets to the National Inquirer? Wishful thinking I guess…

Mind:

Our minds can be a playground for spiritual attacks. Something can be as silly as old tuna salad and the next thing you know, negative messages bombard your mind saying, “He always does this. He’s not being very thoughtful. Why doesn’t he love me the way I love him.”

And then you find yourself searching for more proof to make your point stronger. “If he respected me, he’d remember the debit receipts. I don’t remember him kissing me when I got home from work…” There are times when I get so worked up because one little thing snowballed as I agreed with all those condemning thoughts in my mind.

Ryan will ask me, “What was the reason for this argument again? I forgot.” Inevitably I don’t remember either, but I hate to admit it. So I’ll give him a silent treatment as I jog my memory trying to recall exactly what it was he did to cause this war. Ryan, on the other hand, will be cracking up, doing a one-man-conga dance trying to get me to lighten up.

Can you think of instances where you were busy compiling evidence for your case because you wanted to be right instead of being well?

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Consider that the enemy works overtime to put those thoughts into your head.

Take a moment to reflect on the fact that there will be a day when those irritants won’t be in your life.

For me, it’ll be a very sad day if Ryan leaves this earth before me and I have a sparkling clean fridge. I will yearn for the days when his month-old tuna was on that second shelf.

What can you do differently with this knowledge? Journal your thoughts including solutions you can implement.

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Body:

“I can’t eat well because my spouse keeps junk food in the pantry.” “I don’t have time to exercise because my job is so demanding.” “My family members told me that I’ll just put the weight back on like usual.” “You have no idea what my culture is like. It revolves around unhealthy food!” “I keep the Oreos for the kids. It’s not my fault I have that weakness once everyone goes to bed.” “If I don’t eat my mother-in-law’s cooking, she’ll be offended.” “I’ve tried a million different diets and nothing works.” “The economy is so bad, I cannot afford to eat well or exercise.” “Someone brings donuts to the office every day.”

Arrrggggghhhhhh! Really? I mean… really? Confessions of a fitness trainer… this is only a small sampling of what I hear. Notice that in each complaint, the blame is on something or someone else. There is no personal ownership of their situations or choices. Sure, I would love to blame someone or something else for my problems as much as the next person. But, whenever we do, we lose all of our power.

Write your health-related excuses in your journal.

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What control do you have in each excuse?

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If you don’t have control, you cannot fix the problem and if you can’t fix it, it does no good to complain about it.

What actions are you committed to take so you can move toward your physical goals?

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Here’s an example: “I can’t eat well because my spouse keeps junk food in the pantry.” Psst… Ryan, this is purely hypothetical, honey. I have control over my healthy choices that I keep in the pantry. I can ask Ryan… I mean “my spouse”… to keep his Lay’s potato chips and Pop Tarts in the part of the pantry that only he can reach. I can commit to three minutes of jump roping before I make my snack choices.

Work on you.

Get the plank out.

Forget about the speck of dust.

Closing Prayer:

Dear Lord, as I bow once again before Your throne, I am relieved… relieved that I don’t have to try and be something I’m not. It’s exhausting, and yet no matter how hard we try You will always know exactly who we are despite what our packaging says. I will never know why You still choose to purchase any and all who will come but Father, I am so glad that You do. You take our dents and damaged places and make them new. It’s because of You and Your work in and through our lives that we become something of worth. May it not be in vain Lord. Let us continue to live in such a way that brings praise to Your precious and holy name, amen.

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How can you not laugh when you visualize yourself with a long plank of wood coming from your eye socket… and there you are, squinting and trying desperately to “help” someone get an invisible speck of dust from their eye? -Noelle Dey

We talked about this at church not to long ago and I found it funny then too but I leaves such a picture in my head, its hard to forget it. I am so guilty of thinking judgmental thoughts and I must catch myself and ask forgiveness immediately but it also leads to wonder, why do I do this? I don't think I am better than others, what causes me to judge other's behaviors or decisions instead of focusing on my own sin?

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