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Transformation by Truth: Day 19

Day 19

Excerpts from Transformation by Truth: 30 Days to a Healthy Heart, Mind and Body by Noelle Dey © 2012

Coffee Talk for Monday, February 2, 2015

Carefully prepared just for you by your friend, Noelle Dey

Blessing:

Precious Heavenly Father, today I’m reminded of how powerful You are. You can take a broken and stained soul and wash it in Your precious Son’s blood and make it white as snow! Only the touch of Your perfect hand can do that… give hope to the hopeless. Thank You for seeing our need and choosing to offer us hope! As we enter this time with You, open our eyes that we may see, open our ears that we may hear, open our minds that we may understand, and open our hearts that we may feel Your Holy Spirit. I ask that You would reveal to us Your truths and our individual purpose for today. Let Your desires consume our lives so that we might glorify You. Have Your way and may Your will be done. For it’s in Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

Scripture Reference:

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

Galatians 6:9

Today’s Message:

My sister Lori gave me a heartfelt compliment recently. I was having one of those days where I could literally feel the grey hairs sprouting out of my head and I was naming each of them after my daughter. I was furious with some of Sierra’s choices so I put her on a timeout. But, when her sentence was over, I showed my forgiveness by giving her a big hug and I acted silly to break the tension. The sweet words from my sister were, “Oh Noey, I am so excited you have broken through our family’s cycle. Sierra marks our first generation which will know grace and forgiveness.”

Now, I happen to be someone who loves praise and readily accepts it, however this time, it wasn’t mine to own. Yes, the heaviness of grudge-holding and relentless anger had been broken, but it wasn’t changed in Sierra’s generation, it was changed in my generation.

Unmerited grace wasn’t regularly given to my sister and me as we grew up. Our Mom and Dad were amazing people who genuinely loved us, but I can count on three fingers the amount of times my Mom apologized to me. And one of those times, the apology was yelled, “Well, if that’s what you think Noelle Kelly Sase, then I AM SORRY!”

Our family’s vicious cycle was actually broken by my big sister and I was the main recipient. I am six years younger than Lori and for most of our lives I was the typical kid sis. Lori desperately wanted to play soccer when she was little. My parents said “No!” for years before they finally let her play. I couldn’t care less about sports, but I was on a soccer and basketball team by the time I was six.

When her friends came over, our Mom would say, “Let Noelle play too.” I was bossy. I lied and Lori would be the one to get in trouble. I wasn’t half the student my sister was. In fact, my Mom got to know the vice principal extremely well when I was in high school due to my antics (if I explained what I meant by antics, you might faint).

And then there was Lori… she has always been humble, honest and she was a magna cum laude student. So, you can easily guess who got the accolades in our family, right? Correct-a-mundo if you said me. What?! I know, I know… if you were in her shoes, you’d probably call a hit man, eh? Well then, I’m glad I didn’t have you as my sibling.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I didn’t get in trouble. I gave our parents high highs and very low lows. In addition to the accolades, I also got kicked out of our house and I was told, “You’ll never amount to anything.” There were a few times when my Mom told me she disowned me as her daughter.

My Mom had a wonderfully warm personality, unless you offended her. In many of those cases, you had a permanent black mark against you. When that happened to me, I told her I didn’t care what she thought and that I could make it on my own.

But truthfully speaking, I did care. I wanted to be loved. I wanted someone to believe in me. I wanted a do-over. God knew my truest heart’s cry and generously responded by giving me Lori as a sister. Against all odds, Lori became a Christian at a young age. She was the only one in our family who had the Holy Spirit beaming through her. When she first told our Mom about her relationship with the Lord, she was commanded to “not speak the name of God in our house.”

Lori has faced the most horrific spiritual attacks from the time she was a kid. If I were in her shoes, I’m not sure I would have remained so committed… so deeply in love with Jesus… but she has never wavered. And because of that, she has also never given up on anyone… especially me… because she knows that God can and will move mountains.

I am convinced that one of the main reasons our parents and I became Christians was Lori’s unwavering heart. She was in college when I got kicked out of the house. There weren’t cell phones back then, and I didn’t have enough money to call her from pay phones.

So Lori devised a plan where I would call her collect from a specific phone where she knew the call back number. If I used my real name, she’d accept the charges knowing it was extremely urgent. If I gave a fake name to the operator, Lori would decline the collect call and call me right back. We still crack up when we think back to the day when I used a heavy unspecified accent and told the operator my name was “Racchhmahn.”

When most everyone discarded me as being “one of those kids,” I always had Lori’s gentle voice tell me, “You’re amazing. Not only are you athletic—you’re smart, beautiful and you make me laugh. I love you so much.” Lori healed me through affirmation, and by her grace she allowed me the freedom to wipe the slate clean and to grow into the woman that God created me to be.

APPLICATIONS

Heart:

Do you remember back when we studied the story of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32?

It was so freeing to realize that no matter how ugly our past, God throws a party when we come back to Him! That story has been one of my life’s greatest themes. But the part of the story we didn’t look at was the viewpoint of the brother who honored and obeyed his father his entire life.

He never had a party thrown for him. He was rightfully angry and didn’t want to join in the festivities that were being thrown for his brother who disrespected his dad on many levels including throwing his money away on prostitutes. Here’s how his dad responded:

My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.

Luke 15:31-32

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation?

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What if you’re the one in your marriage who is reading self-help books and putting in all of the effort, but your spouse takes no notice? At your job, you are honest and highly qualified but someone with questionable work ethic and less experience gets the promotion. Maybe you’re taking the high road by not speaking poorly about your ex-spouse and now your kids are siding against you. Have you ever thought, “It’s just not worth the effort. I’m getting nowhere!”

How can you find peace in the dad’s response in the story of the prodigal son?

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How does it affect you to know that God is taking notice of you and that all He has is yours?

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What would your world look like if you treated that response as being 100 percent true?

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Journal your responses to your specific situations.

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Galatians 6:9 says it this way,

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

My sister had to wait a few decades (and then some) to reap her full harvest with me. Words cannot begin to describe my gratitude since she didn’t grow weary while doing good.

What can you do to remind yourself that you are promised your harvest if you don’t become weary and lose heart?

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Place your answer somewhere where you will see it often.

Mind:

Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head. –Ann Landers

I’ve gone to enough counseling appointments and I’ve read enough books to know that forgiveness is at least as important, if not more important, for the one forgiving rather than the recipient. To give undeserved grace doesn’t mean that you’re saying the offence afflicted on you was justified. But, consider the freedom you will have if you break the heavy bond that is linking you to someone who hurt you.

I had to go through these exercises after my parents had died. It was eye opening to me when I was asked, “Have you noticed that your Mom is still controlling you and she’s not even here anymore?”

Can you think of situations where you need to give eviction notices to the tenants living rent-free in your head?

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What actions will you take this very moment to release yourself and the tenants?

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Journal your answer and get on it… now!

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Body:

Any chance you’re tired of doing all the “right things” when it comes to your health and fitness?

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I had a client tell me the other day that it just wasn’t fair that she was the only one in her group of family and friends who made the healthy choices at restaurants, journaled her food and stayed committed to an exercise program. I asked her what her goals were. They were to lose weight, be a healthy role model for her kids and to increase her energy.

When she got herself away from judging what was “fair” and “unfair” and got back to focusing on what her story was, the fog cleared and she was back on track.

Do you need to put your blinders on and refocus on the healthy life God is calling you to?

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List the benefits of staying on track in your journal, even when things seem unfair.

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So then, what is on your schedule today for healthy living?

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Schedule it in with a permanent pen and do it without growing weary.

Your harvest is waiting!

Closing Prayer:

Oh Lord, to know that I have been given a job to do. A job that has been prepared by Your glorious hands. Forgive me for straying from that path. Forgive me for thinking I am more qualified to choose my course. Oh God, as I move from this time I pray that my eyes will be fixed upon You. Let Your desires consume my desires, so that as I journey forward my feet move me closer to You. I ask these things in Jesus precious and holy name, amen.

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