Relationships Are Hard
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. Proverbs 27:6 NLT
A few years ago I did Beth Moore’s “Esther” Bible Study. It touted, "It's tough being a woman."
Life is tough and relationships are hard!
i will admit, i stink at them! As wife, mom, child, friend, or coworker, i have missed the mark.
Some moments during a relationship seem flawless, but most don't.
Most of the time someone feels let down, ignored, hurt, forgotten, lonely, _________ (fill in the blank). And 9 times out of 10, it is that woman in the mirror who has dropped the ball... again.
Honestly, it's exhausting. And so my tendency is to retreat or run. The little recording in my head says, "Really? It's not enough? Okee, dokee then, i'll just slip over here and disappear."
In the old days, those times of disappearing would lead to disaster. These days i still retreat, it is just spent a little differently. i rise a little earlier and go to my spot. Mine is at the end of the couch next to the end table. i flip the footrest up and recline, then i reach for my favorite hiding place - God's Word.
i know, i know some of you are saying, "Oh, here she goes again. She is going to tell us how it will all be better if we just read His Word."
Trust me, that is NOT what i'm saying.
Your relationships may still stink. Your finances may still be in the red. Your job may still be gone. Life may still suck lemons! But here is the truth.
When i spend time in His Word, the focus shifts from poor me to Powerful God. That shift is CRITICAL! It points my thoughts in the right direction.
Suddenly the little i that captured my mind turns to the big I AM.
Instead of seeing how much i've messed up, i see how much He has restored.
Instead of viewing my inadequacies, He highlights His Sufficiency.
Instead of reliving my failures, He plays back His Victories.
Instead of feeling like i've let others down, He reveals that i never held them up.
Instead of falling apart, He holds me together.
It is the place where i find the Center. In the still quiet moments, no longer listening to the lies swirling in my head, but reading unchangeable Truth, Peace emerges.
i say emerges because it's been there all along… my little i just blocked the flow.