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Me a Mentor?

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Today’s Special is: Are You Kidding?
Carefully prepared just for you by your friend, Stephanie Shott
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The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed

Titus 2:3-5 NKJV


When she asked me to be her mentor my heart went into panic mode.  “Who me?  Are you kidding?  I wouldn’t know what to say, what to do, or even what kind of resources to use!”  Maybe you’ve felt the same way before too.

I knew I wasn’t mentor material and the whole idea of mentoring left me shaking in my shoes.

Feeling completely inadequate and totally intimidated, I really wanted to say no. I mean mentoring is archaic and awkward, right?

But I agreed to pray about it, and as I did, the Titus 2 call began to haunt my heart.

How could I say no when it’s what God’s Word calls us to?  But how could I say yes when I was scared stiff?  Well, God’s Word won the war in my heart and I started meeting with her every Wednesday afternoon.

It was a journey of discovery that I wouldn’t have missed for the world!

I learned that:

I didn’t have all the answers.

That mentoring is much more about walking with someone through a season of life than it is about telling them how to walk through it alone.

That some of the most meaningful mentoring moments are found in those transparent places where we’re willing to share more from our failures than from our successes.

I discovered that mentoring is the overflow of our relationship with God - and that we’re never more fulfilled than when we are pouring ourselves out for Christ.

Mentoring is just living out Titus 2.  A passage that is so practical and so daily.  Teach the younger women to manage their homes, love their husbands, and love their children.

It’s easy to feel intimidated when we think about mentoring.  But God rarely calls us to do what we’re courageous enough to conquer on our own.  He calls us to that place of faith - where we see Him move in ways we could never see if we continued to cling to the comfortable and convenient.

I never had a mentor, but I was glad I didn’t let the fear of becoming one prevent me from fulfilling God’s Titus 2 call.  In 2012, the Lord led me to launch a missional mentoring ministry that focuses on reaching the moms of this generation so we can reach the heart of the next generation - to impact our communities and this culture through the power of missional mentoring.

And it all started when I said yes to that sweet lady over 20 years ago.

Take Out:

Does the idea of mentoring someone or being mentored by someone intimidate you?

We are always to be both...a mentor and a mentee.  So, today, I want to encourage you to write down the name(s) of the woman or women God has placed in your life for you to mentor as well as those whom you would like to mentor you.

Then go ahead and give them call and schedule a time to get together and talk about meeting on a regular basis.  It could be over lunch once a week, in a park, at the local coffee shop or at your dining room table.  But become intentional about mentoring at least one other person and allowing someone else to mentor you.


Precious Father, You call us to do life together.  You tell us in Your Word that two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9), that there is safety in a multitude of counselors (Proverbs 24:6) and that iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17).  Lord, mentoring scares me!  And I know that I’m not enough on my own...but I also know that You make me enough because You live in me.  Please never allow fear to prevent me from fulfilling Your Titus 2 call on my life.  And please surround me with godly women who have been where I am and who will speak truth, encouragement, and wisdom into my life so I can fulfill Your will for each moment of each day You have given me.

The Making of a Mom is a resource that helps local churches and ministries make mentoring missional.  With uniquely designed questions at the end of each chapter and Planning Guides for mentoring in the back of the book, The Making of a Mom is written to not only minister to the hearts of moms, but to serve as a tool so they won’t have to take their journey alone.

For more encouragement, visit Stephanie Shott at The Mom Initiative, where you can find everyday encouragement for moms and the resources and support that every church needs to help weave mentoring into the fabric of every women’s ministry.

© 2014 by Stephanie Shott.  All rights reserved.

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Ladies, I just found this 2 days ago! At the best time, too! I have a friend getting married in 2 weeks and even though we are almost the same age, I felt like God is placing my husband and I in a mentoring place. All the fears I had were the same you shared! It blessed, encouraged me, and confirmed what God had shown me - to help, mentor, and walk life with them! My husband and I have not had this in our life. So, this is new for us!
Thank you!

Ladies... Jill, Michelle & Stephanie...

Thank you for showing our readers and our team what it means to love as Christ loves. Thank you for taking the time to speak truth and encouragement into the hearts of those stepping up and out to reach others for His name's sake. Thank you for serving Him through your service to others. Sweet Blessings and Much Love from the EC Team!

Stephanie... we are SO glad that you have taken the opportunity to share what God has shown you as you walk the path He has prepared for specifically for you. We are just as excited as you are that God has intertwined your path with this ministry. We couldn't do what we do without the you and countless others who pour out their hearts so faithfully for our Father!

May we continue to walk in unison and may our words and actions always bring glory and honor to our Lord!

I SO wish I would have had older women in my life like you did. My mentors were mentors from afar…women like Elizabeth Elliot and Gladys Aylward… women whom I read behind and listened to. But I longed to have a mentor that I could sit down and chat with. I'm so glad you did!

I popped over to your website and love it! LOVE your heart to pour yourself out for others. Blessings to you! :-)


Thank you for your sweet words! You're so right! It's really all about serving!

I'm afraid so many have shied away from mentoring because they feel intimidated by it or even that it would be inconvenient. But when we think in terms of serving the Lord through serving others…especially other moms :-) ~ how could we do any less?!

Thank you so much for the privilege of sharing about mentoring on Encouragement Cafe! LOVE your ministry! :-)

Thank you for tackling a topic that makes most of us shake in our boots! No doubt you have been such a blessing in the life of this woman and so many others. In studying mentoring quotes I've been struck by one critical success factor that seasoned mentors placed at the forefront: serving. What a wonderful example of mentoring by serving we have in our King. When I approach mentoring with this in mind it seems far less intimidating. Thank you for continuing to mentor so many of us reading today in your service to Christ and Encouragement Café's community!

Stephanie, I love this! Mentoring is a passion of mine as I've been blessed by older women pouring into my life! It is amazing what God can do when the generations connect! I appreciate your words about not having the answers, sharing life and being transparent...that has been key in my mentoring relationships! Finally, your words here reminded me of a poem I put together years back as I tried to express the role my mentors played. It was simply titled, "A Step Ahead" (http://titus24u.blogspot.com/2008/07/step-ahead.html) because really that's what our mentors are and what a responsibility we have to remember there is always following in our steps as well!! Blessings to you!

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