Falling Off the Cliff
Café Menu Wednesday, July 22, 2015
Today’s Special is: Motherhood Has Been the Molding of Me
Carefully prepared just for you by your friend, Britta Lafont
The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.
Proverbs 16:9 ESV
When I was expecting my firstborn, I knew that I was on the verge of falling off a cliff. I had my dream job teaching dental hygiene and my husband was graduating from dental school in a few months. Our life was completely ordered around work and school and we loved it; but he was graduating and joining the military, while I would stay at home.
All of our friends wondered aloud to me, just how long it would be until I started back to work again, in the new place, after we moved to our first duty station, after we had our first baby.
No one really believed me when I said, "I'll be staying home. At least for the first few years."
Years... even a few of them sounded like forever to me and that was almost twelve years ago. But somehow I just knew, without a doubt, that this was what was next for me. I was a little freaked out, on the inside. I knew there was a reckoning waiting for me on the other side of motherhood. Or a wrecking. Or both.
I read all the books like a good mom-to-be. And none of them prepared me for my new job. None of the books prepared me for the humbling of me. Motherhood is a life of service. To enter into it is to imitate Jesus,
who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant…
Philippians 2:6-7 ESV
Loving difficult people is where God schools you in loving. It is where you meet Him. It is the hard place where The Rock refines your rough edges. And children are teeny tiny difficult people. So I think the thing that surprised me most about motherhood is… the only way to prepare for it, is to prepare your heart by knowing God.
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
Proverbs 4:23 ESV
Everything else is OJT (on the job training). Parenting isn't a skill or a love language or a philosophy; it is a practice. Paul gives us this promise,
What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
Philippians 4:9 ESV
At the end of all the stress and the strife and the spiritual growth, lies a deeper relationship with the God of peace.
The best way to face a new challenge of any sort is to prepare your heart by connecting more deeply with the Lord… the rest is out of your control. But here’s some good news… He is in control!
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for preparing us for the unforeseen struggles we will face. You are in control and knowing that is how we make it through this life.
For more encouragement, visit Britta at Girls Growing With God, where she loves to write about the intersection of God’s Word in God’s World.
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